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Bitches be running their mouths. January 24, 2008

Filed under: Blogs — Clink @ 6:30 pm

Title courtesy of Peter.

I don’t like every blog that I come across.

(Shock, awe, I know.)

And I don’t expect everyone to like my blog either.

(More shock, more awe, etc.)

But I also don’t ever feel the need to publicly tear another blogger down for being who they are.

Blogging at its best can be a really great community of kick ass people supporting one another.

Blogging at its worst can be me, sitting at my desk, reading the comments of a post wherein a blogger got engaged and her readers begged her not to become me.

And then the blogger herself said they had permission to kick her ass if she did.

It hurts, slightly. But I’m a politician’s daughter and I’m also Greek - I’m tough. I can take it. I stand by both my blog and my writing.

And I can also remind myself that you know what? It feels pretty fucking good to be me.

Even on my worst, disordered eating, Crazy-filled, stressed-the-fuck-out day.

So please, fellow blogger who probably wouldn’t hate me in real life, don’t become me. I have a feeling there’s only room for one of me in this world anyway.

Update: Someone just alerted me that she previously wrote an entire post about me (and, also, my commenters). Aww. Honey. I’m not that interesting, really. Move along.

Words of wisdom that rang especially true after what I read about myself. From a Julia Allison reader. I adore Julia, and she’s someone who knows a thing or two about being judged unfairly:

And thank you too, for staunchly standing by the idea that cynicism and sarcasm are not synonyms for intelligence. New York needs a rebellion against the pseudo-hipster passing-as-culture movement, and methinks you’re the one to lead it.”

 

100 Responses to “Bitches be running their mouths.”

  1. noringsattached Says:

    Clink-

    Your blog is honest and awesome! Who cares what the haters have to say anyway?

  2. Spring Says:

    Blog gossip! Jesus. Don’t they know Teh Internets are very public?

    And also that bloggers have feelings?

    And also, like most writers, extremely fragile egos?

    I like you, lady. I’d love to be you any day.

  3. BethanyWD Says:

    Don’t listen to the haters, please! This is ridiculous - you can talk about your wedding all you want, after all, this is your blog.

    I never understand why people just STOP READING if they have a problem with something. There are plenty of blogs in the sea.

  4. Princess Extraoridinaire Says:

    Clink you rock - never change!

  5. Pessimistic Redhead Says:

    Good Lord, some people are so insensitive and cruel. Makes me feel like junior high up in here (I went with “up in here “because I was referencing junior high). To hell with her… I think you’re just swell :)

  6. Sara Says:

    People never cease to amaze me. Your readers love you for who you are. Screw everyone else.

    And, btw, you are handling this much better than I would.

  7. Chris Says:

    That’s exactly what I saw that day I emailed you. When I didn’t hear back, I thought you… well, anyway. I’m glad you posted this.

  8. bloggingbarbie Says:

    f*ck the haters. they just jealous.

    …and they should watch out, because they don’t have barbie as their lil sis. and you don’t mess with barbie.

    seriously clink, i love you. and this post? basically said it all. i wouldn’t want you to be anyone else. why? “because i like you. just the way you are.”

    xoxo

  9. Angela Says:

    Wow. People suck sometimes.

    I hope you realize how many readers you have that adore reading what you have to say and never want you to change. Just keep being you and screw ‘em if they don’t like it!

  10. theotherotherjessica Says:

    Ouch! Well, for what it’s worth, I think you’re fab!

  11. Sparkel Says:

    I love your blog more than most blogs, and look forward to your posts every single day. You’re awesome, its awesome you’re engaged, awesome you’re excited about it, and frankly anyone who puts you down is obviously jealous. Don’t let the bitches bring you down. And pretty, pretty please NEVER stop blogging.

  12. brookem Says:

    Glad you aren’t letting these type of asshat bloggers get the best of you.

  13. Peter Says:

    Other chick’s blog sucks.

    She’s waaaaay too pleased with herself.

    And *I* would recognize the type.

  14. bing Says:

    That is pretty crappy. But you know what, in a weird way it’s kind of like a compliment. The commenters read your blog and so does the newly engaged one. They know who you are and even if they don’t want to be like you, they still reference you, and you are impacting them in some way. To them you are like the untouchable celebrity, and they are just jealous that they can’t be like you, so they say bad things.

    I hope this makes as much sense as it did in my head - it’s been a long day. :)

  15. Banana Says:

    That is just dumb. I hope it doesn’t make the wedding posts stop, because I love me a good wedding post!

  16. Laura Says:

    Well, for the record, I think you are pretty fabulous. I don’t know who this other blogger is but I wouldn’t give much energy thinking about it. You have a great following, great friends and a great fiance. :)

  17. distracted spunk Says:

    My reaction: Say what? I’m from Brooklyn. I can do a mean verbal throw-down.

    In all seriousness, I don’t get why people do that. It makes no sense to me. At all.

  18. meesh Says:

    I just started reading you a few weeks ago and this is the first time i’m coming out of the wood work but I felt it necessary to tell you the following:

    1. you have a tremendous amount of class because if I were the recipient of such judgment I can only hope that I would handle it as gracefully as you have.

    2. YOU ARE ENGAGED AND THAT IS AMAAAAAAZING. Do not let anyone…ANYONE take that away from you. It’s an outrageously exciting and crazy and stressful and intense and AMAAAAAZING time and it only happens once in your life if you’re lucky and you get to talk about it or blog about it as much as you want to. and just for the record, I got married last May and I’m TOTALLY living vicariously through your posts about your engagement because it’s soooo much fun. PLEASE don’t stop.

    uch. sometimes I really don’t like people.

  19. Ebee Says:

    You are an unsuspecting victim of celebricide Clink - you’ve got an amazingly popular blog here and part of what we terrible humans love to do is totally trash people who are A) successful and B) high profile.

    LSAT question version: A or B, or A and B. Which follows is: not neccessarily both. But anyways…

    What keeps you relevant and interesting to read is that you keep putting it out there. If you were a snore you wouldn’t be showing up in the comments on other blogs. So rock on you pop-culture icon you!

  20. bridgid Says:

    This post left me speechless. Really, who does that? This post also left me feeling really mad, because even though we haven’t met in real life, I’m apparently a little protective of you! For the record, I think your blog was great before the engagement, and after…rock on.

  21. americangirl Says:

    I’m confused. Are the readers of that blog suggesting that the blogger shouldn’t write about one of the most defining and monumental times of their life? That seems to go against everything I know about blogging.

    Keep on keepin’ on, Clink. Blog about what moves you, what is going on in your life (yes, even if it’s an engagement), whatever you damn feel like. Don’t censor yourself because of a few bitchy comments from internet stangers.

  22. katelin Says:

    Clink, I love your blog and you’re writing and all you crazy antics. You’re normal and I definitely appreciate that.

  23. Stephanie Says:

    Sometimes this blogging world is just TOO MUCH like high school, I swear! Keep writing, keep being yourself, bottom line.

    And props to Peter for such a clever title. :)

  24. Jack Says:

    Yeah I think Peter said all there is to say with that title. People will talk shit; whatever. They need to lay off the haterade.

  25. notsojenny Says:

    girls will be girls. it’s why most girls don’t like girls. sad, but oh so true.

    btw - my favorite part of this is that it just reminds me how the use of such an endearing word as “honey” can take on such a biting sting when used properly. luv that.

  26. s Says:

    wait, really? seriously? it’s actually pretty funny. i mean really to get that jealous of someone to actually devote blog posts to hating on them? i love your blog and your wedding posts and i how excited you were when you were engaged. i love it all.

  27. s Says:

    i meant when you got engaged, not that you aren’t currently engaged. urg, i wish i could edit comments.

  28. qu33nbee Says:

    What the hell. Why are they so consumed with you? I love your blog. If I anything about me ever resembled you, I’d be all. “YaY!” You’re cool. You’re a great writer. You’re beautiful with great taste. Who wouldn’t love you.

    (By the way, so what if I’m creating a post partially dedicated to you. Is that bad? You won’t hate me, will you? You are kind of interesting. ;-) )

  29. Melissa Says:

    I wish it didn’t hurt. Even slightly. Don’t let her get to you.

  30. Rachel Says:

    Be proud. I mean, someone is spending a whole lot of their time and energy getting angry about you…about a blog…because clearly blogging is your life and you have nothing else and this version of you is the only version of you that exists [end sarcastic rant].

    In true blogger community fashion people have come out of the woodwork in support of you and that’s great! I add my name to that list. I also wish to remind those other people that insulting people over the internet is pointless, but thumbs up to them anyway for trying.

  31. Sparkel Says:

    I stumbled on the blog you’re talking about and…WOW…do her and her commenters ever want to just… BE you. It’s really kind of sad/funny.

  32. Trigger Says:

    Is it bad that I SERIOUSLY want to read that other blog, just to snicker and laugh? And also, shoot eyeball lasers, via my computer monitor, at it? Man, the secrecy is KILLING me!

  33. mikesgotnothin Says:

    I wondered why I had a “don’t be like clink” search term on mine. I’m gonna open up a can of whoop ass stronger than the pats against the giants. Oops, there I go saying that again. ;)

  34. magda Says:

    Clink, I didn’t find your blog until well after you were engaged–and I love it. LOVE it, love you (if that’s possible on such an ethereal, unknowing blog level), love most everything you have to say. The comments before let me know I’m not alone, and I’m sure many more will follow with similar sentiments. I wish girls could just coexist sometimes without getting all bitchy and competitive. Sigh.

  35. mcgee Says:

    you should take it as a compliment that she’s so interested in your life she wrote a whole post about it.

    i (used to) read the blogger you’re speaking of and hadn’t seen those comments about you on that post. and didn’t know until now that she’s written an entire one about you. i’m shocked.

    wow. i don’t understand why girls can be so catty and immature sometimes. what are we, in third grade? so sad.

    love you AND your blog. but you know that already.

  36. Kenzie Says:

    im pretty sure i read your blog like everyday.
    so she can bite a big one.

  37. Princess of the Universe Says:

    Silly people. You have an honest blog Clink, and it’s what most of us enjoy about you - you’re brave enough to tell us like it really is and not sugarcoat it.
    xo

  38. strange bird Says:

    Don’t worry. We all like you, and you know we’re cool enough so our opinions count. ;) The Internet just makes people think it’s okay to be mean and petty sometimes. Ignore it.

  39. Molly Says:

    After reading the post and the comments on that blog I am shaking with anger. This is what I hate about blogging. I got upset when some idiot called me wrinkly…but this? This is too much. HATE.

  40. Jamie Says:

    I’m itching to know what blog this is! I don’t even know you (new reader/blogger myself) and I love how you write, how you’re so free with your emotions and excitement…How can anyone hate on that?

  41. legallyheidi Says:

    and i thought i left all that drama behind when I left lj and ditched my former best friend…

    but for the record you were one of the first blogs i started reading when i jumped the LJ ship, and despite my hesitancy to comment often (i’m so paranoid that people will think i’m annoying…it’s a long time thing..) i think you’re freakin’ fabulous because despite the anonymity…you’re real. So eff them man. eff. them.

    I’ll conclude…in the words of one of my close friends…”i’ll effin’ cut a bitch”

    <3

  42. kate Says:

    i normally live in the land of read-from-afar-and-rarely-comment, but i had to say this. last time i checked, girls who are “mature” enough to be engaged should not be acting like they’re starring in Mean Girls-Wedding Edition. otherwise, i wish the best to their husbands and would advise them to sign a pre-nup because pretty soon, girls like that are going to turn on their men!

    i thoroughly enjoy reading your blog and i appreciate both your honesty and superb writing. please keep it up.

  43. Britt Says:

    I second (third, fourth, fortieth?) the YOU ROCK sentiment goin around. You’re fantastic and we all heart you.

  44. Ashley Says:

    I hate people like that. I don’t even know what was said and I want to have a throw-down. I’m itching to know who it was that said such mean things. Please don’t let her/them get to you, you’re fabulous and we all love you. People who trash others in that way are very insecure and jealous and just wish they had one second of your life.

    xoxo

  45. Heather B. Says:

    I only started reading you recently but thus far I am thoroughly entertained and loving your site. I am sorry about whatever has happened. Some people on the internet can be ridiculously shitty because of the anonymity of it all. I’ve always said that blogging is a ‘beautiful reciprocal arrangement’ (from Salinger) because we all share and we can all learn from each other. It sucks when one person ruins it for the rest of us by being cruel.

    Again, I’m sorry and you do rock.

  46. Angela Says:

    Who cares what they think? I think it’s sad that they go through all that trouble to post immature comments about someone they don’t even know. Anyway, I think you’re awesome and eventhough I’m not engaged I love reading about your wedding plans. =)

  47. Sandy Says:

    Clink, if you haven’t realized it yet? Your readers clearly LOVE you. I agree with what everybody has said so far- you are an amazing, real writer. When I first stumbled on your blog, I plowed through the archives just to catch up so I could read you regularly. Now? I read you every day, as it seems so do a TON of other people. Take that as a compliment. Don’t take people’s harsh criticisms to heart because it’s clear that if they are reading you, there must be some reason for it. I found it extremely hard to believe they’re just reading because they DON’T like you. They’re jealous, if anything. So, please. Keep up the good writing. And props to you for not being as bitchy back to those chicks as they were to you. =)

  48. libby Says:

    srsly now. srsly?????? is this actually happening.
    clearly, you’ve struck a nerve with this person, and its bugging her out. you’ve taken the high road clink. kudos.

  49. Samantha Says:

    Who gives a flying f–k what that blogger thinks. If they can’t say something nice about someone else, then they shouldn’t say anything at all. And you ROCK sweetie, so don’t even let that petty shit sting you for even a second.

  50. Manuella Says:

    Seriously??!?!? WOW…get outta here…stupid lil’ girl…who cares what she thinks…she obviously a dumb ass!

  51. Thomas Says:

    This bitch be leavin’ comments too. Um-hmm.

  52. drbolte Says:

    seriously?

    SERIOUSLY?

    life is so too short for this crap.

    seriously. didn’t our moms tell us if we don’t have anything nice to say, to keep our frickin’ mouths shut (sort of…but in a much more Momish way that was both endearing and annoying)?

    i think you’re great. not that it matters…

    oy. now I’M annoyed. and i don’t even know you. sigh.

  53. Hope Says:

    I actually can’t believe that someone would say that about you. It boggles the mind, actually. But, I can see why she would go to the trouble to write about you, you ARE all sorts of awesome.

  54. Lisa Says:

    Well, you know how I feel about you. I think you’re one of the sweetest girls out here so yeah, I don’t get it. Jealousy? I don’t know who that girl is, and I’m thinking it’s just as well.

  55. Kim Says:

    Love your blog, Clink, and whoever is trashing you is just an idiot. You must be upset, though–I don’t think a writer of your caliber would normally make the all-too-common error of using an apostrophe in “it’s” (”Blogging at it’s best” ;) when you mean it in the possessive sense (”its” ;) and not as a contraction .

  56. pie Says:

    I’m not going to gush about how awesome you are b/c duh. We all know you rock.

    I am however going to say that jealousy is a big, bitter pill to swallow. This chick is obvs. choking on it. She sucks. And is probably a gross whore so don’t sweat her too much! I know, way easier said than done.

  57. Michelle and the City Says:

    aiyi what is the internet coming to?

    and of course - you’re fabulous. who cares what she thinks.

  58. Jess Says:

    You know, when you get negative comments on your own blog, you know you’re getting somewhere. When you’re getting negative comments on other blogs (and whole negative posts about you), you know you’ve arrived. Geez.

  59. DevilsHeaven Says:

    Soooo, someone is talking smack about US? As a group? And you, as a person? I’d like to know what they said, but I think I would get just as upset as Molly but I still feel the need to defend us!
    Twits. Stop off the hatin!

  60. La Says:

    Seriously, I have zero patience for retarded people who have nothing better to do than be retarded. You know that you’re fabulous and that we love you, and obviously this skank whore (like how I decided that’s what she is?) likes you, too, or she wouldn’t be coming back day after day. She obviously just needs attention. But really? F her. Who cares. You rock, chica. Hard core.

    Have a great weekend! xoxox

  61. Tamblina D Says:

    I’m shocked! The only thing I keep thinking is “HOW OLD ARE THE HATERS ANYWAY?!” I believe this is HIGH SCHOOL behavior. Here’s a simple solution to the haters: If you do not like a blog/blogger, DO NOT read the blog!!!
    Click, I love LOVE your classy blog!

  62. chasingparadise Says:

    It saddens me when people in the blogging community resort to that kind of behavior. I always say that it’s okay for everyone to have their own opinions, but it’s also a responsibility we all share to carefully express those opinions in the correct forum without tearing others down. Because really, that’s just childish and hurtful and not what blogging is about. Blogging is about expressing yourself freely, yes, but also about making friends and developing a community together.

    She should be ashamed of herself, whoever she is.

  63. colby Says:

    I’ve been lurking quietly for a while, and just recently started blogging - and your blog is one I read constantly. Please don’t let this get you down - you’re funny inspiring and interesting and I’m obviously not the only one who feels this way - Keep on doin what you’re doing

  64. Ashley Says:

    oh what the fuck ever.

    she is a little in love with herself i think.

    oh well. you rock, we love you. the end. :)

  65. kwarterlifecrisis Says:

    That title just made my entire day. And eff the haters. You are awesome.

  66. Nilsa S. Says:

    One of the great things about blogging is we can say what we want. The way we want. Without regard to anyone. Many of us probably wouldn’t write what we do if our identities were known. If we knew our significant others or parents or friends or co-workers were reading our words. There is a certain anonymity in the blogging world that provides a safe place for people to do a lot of things … including losing all regard for other humans. Sometimes the freedom gets out of control. Sounds like you got the short end of the stick this time (boo). But, I’m guessing you wouldn’t change that one blogger if it meant changing the blogging community as a whole. And in the same token, you certainly shouldn’t change yourself - you’re too much of a rock star to do that!

  67. indianred Says:

    EFF the haters! we love you clink : )

    and can i just same i little bit dissappointed that i spent a good 40 minutes on google trying to find said blog to no avail? i wanted to read it so i could comment and through internet rocks at her.

    you rock. don’t let anyone ever tell you anything different!

  68. tilly Says:

    Wow. I mean, seriously? People are flipping crazypants. And clearly asshats. I will punch her in the babymaker for you.

  69. Dagny Taggart Says:

    *sigh*

    For what it’s worth, you really are that interesting.

  70. Sassafras Says:

    Huh. I’m curious to read this but I think maybe she doesn’t deserve it.

    I was just relishing in the fact that the blog world is so wonderful. I guess it is as long as I stay in my bubble. Glad that you’re inside my bubble =)

  71. Butter Says:

    wow that blogger must be jealous jealous jealous. And in serious need of a life!

  72. gibsondog Says:

    ILL! I don’t know who’s blog that is … but I think she’s the color green. And Poo poo on her!

    You are a rock star! Unfortunately, fame opens the doors of opinion confliction. Turn your head, its not worth a minute of your time.

    Stay Golden Clink!

  73. Michelle Ann Says:

    Why tear down another blogger…just don’t go to their blog anymore. Kind of like, if you don’t approve of what is on TV…turn the damn channel. URGH!

  74. Erin Says:

    From what I have learned about you by reading your blog - You are intelligent, attractive, successful, have family/a fiance/friends who love and adore you, and SO MUCH MORE. And you’re how old? 26? You have everything in the world to smile about - don’t give anyone the power to bring you down. I love your blog because I can relate to it - sometimes even find it theraputic to see someone going through issues similar to mine. Don’t be discouraged, don’t change and don’t worry! Too many wonderful things to be happy about.

  75. girl Says:

    as a new reader of clink’s, i am desperate to know who this is. and worried that this person is in my blogroll and i just haven’t read it in awhile.

    i read a lot of blogs. i rarely read comments.

  76. Amber Says:

    This phenomenon makes me so sad. That people can be so EVIL just because it’s the internet. I don’t like that every jackhole with a computer can spout his opinion whenever he wants now. Even on news websites, it’s like, whatever happened to a well thought out letter to the editor (or personal email in the case of a blogger)? Just a case of the bad apples spoiling it for the rest of us. (Oh, and I really like your blog, keep it up!)

  77. Kat Says:

    What a sad person she is… Kudos to you for handling it with dignity. I might not have been so dignified and probably would have posted her blog address five or six times so that everyone else could join me in reaming her a good one. Keep doing what you’re doing!

  78. JenBun Says:

    Ack! This makes me mad… and sad… and… just ready to ignore people like that. Because honestly? You can’t change people; you can only change the way you react to them.

    So, she’s not going to change. And that’s OK. Because she has to live with the fact that she’s an asshat.

    But you, you get to live with knowing that you are awesome, and adored, and have the best readers (duh, see above!). And everyone else? Everyone else can kick rocks ( a la Tia, hee hee).

    Although it may feel personal, it’s not personal. She doesn’t know you! Hell, most of us who read don’t know YOU. And that’s OK– we love the writing, we love who we think you are, and we love everything about who we think you are.

  79. lisa Says:

    i never comment but always read. who is this girl, i will cut her!

    seriously that is just pure venomous jealousy.

  80. Leah Says:

    Sounds like you’ve officially arrived. Next step is when you find out someone is copying your posts and calling them theirs on Myspace.

  81. ana Says:

    Ignore them. They are like needles in the haystack, you can let it prick you, or choose to see they do not exist.

    I heart you and your blog because you are honest and thinky and relatable - all the things that we are looking for in the blogsphere.

  82. m Says:

    clink, i said a lot of what i wanted to say in the email i sent you, apologizing for what must have come across as rude (when i certainly did not mean it that way.)

    but i have to say, these comments are doing exactly what they are so angry about: jumping to conclusions about someone else via their blog. your post is concerned with how it upset you that someone wrote a post about themselves and the comments then referred to you, in what you felt was a derogatory way. THESE comments all do the same thing: judge another girl, based on her blog and her blog community. i AGREE with all of you that we shouldn’t be so cruel, and i do think it is awful that this hurt clink, but in your defense of each other, you are being mean (calling names, offering to fight, etc) right back.

  83. Clink Says:

    M: Hardly anyone knows what blog it is; I haven’t posted that information because I was taught from a young age to handle myself with class and take the high road. So most of my readers aren’t judging the blogger based on her blog and her blog community, they are judging her based on the fact that she took it upon herself to write a nasty post and a nasty comment about another person that she does not know.

    I’m proud to have readers who are so quick to support me and come to my defense, I really am.

  84. m Says:

    the thing that is frustrating about typed communication is that it is so often misconstrued. i didn’t mean they were judging her based on her blog; they don’t have anything to judge her on but this post, and are still calling her nasty names. i think it is wonderful that they come to your defense; i love that you have such supportive readers. but i think they could defend you without resorting to name calling, as a few have done.

    i’m sorry, i’m really not trying to start or continue anything. i just feel sick over what happened.

  85. poodlegoose Says:

    This makes me sad. I think that you handled this situation in the best way possible: without making things public and trashing her/him “high school way”. I have just recently started reading your blog, and I find it very encouraging, and your writing is very well done.

    Mayhap-a-roo, you’ll look back on this whole blogging situation later and laugh. I had to leave my first blogging venture. And now, I laugh. (Mainly at how sad the person was who started the whole ordeal.) Anyhoo… keep doing what you do best :)

  86. Peter Says:

    “not everything is about you”

    Hahah.

    There is another post ALL about, Clink.

    “anonymous,” indeed.

    Weak.

  87. pie Says:

    Ditto everything Peter said. Your anon. post is lame. When you say you would rather have your ass kicked than be like clink you are not playing nice in the blogosphere.

    I hate morons.

  88. Clink Says:

    I deleted anon’s comment because she posted a link to the blog.

    But, Dear Anon: Look back a little farther and you will see an entire post about me. The post which prompted the “don’t be like Clink” comments. I still believe that I am “playing nice”; but it’s taking a lot of of self-restraint on my part. Love, Clink.

    Comments will now be moderated.

  89. Amber Says:

    Suggestion from someone who has been blogging since 2003? Drop it. Delete this post, replace it with something like “I’ve decided to drop the situation and move on” or “I’m tired of it” then blog about something about your life, or say nothing if you prefer and just move on. Your blog is for YOU, more than anything else and this isn’t a fun thing for you nor your readers who care about you.

    You don’t need to waste any more time on that blogger and her friends; you do not know them nor care about them, they are never going to see things your way and your time is too valuable to spend any more negativity on this. Besides, you can bet that when any blogger bitches cattily about another blogger they have no contact with, it’s usually jealousy.

    Just my opinion from my highly opinionated self. :) Good luck! :)

  90. Lisa Says:

    Great title.
    Also? Seriously if people don’t like you… why do they read you? Dooce gets a lot of mail from readers who hate her… so imagine this as just another step to becoming dooce!

  91. From the blogger in question Says:

    It’s me — the aforementioned blogger.

    Clink, I’m sorry. I never intended to hurt your feelings. Having gone back and read my post — not the one about my engagement, but the one that’s “all about you” — I agree that it was quite bitchy. I meant it as commentary-in-context, not as a personal attack, but clearly it didn’t come off that way. I’m sorry.

    (Commenters, for the record, I didn’t write about Clink’s blog because I’m a “gross whore”, et al. I wrote about it because it’s interesting. We all read it; I think we can all agree on that. It’s so interesting, actually, that it’s easy to forget sometimes that its anonymous author is a real person, which — clearly — I did.)

    But as far as the post about my engagement, and the commentary that followed, I think you misunderstand in thinking that anything bad was said about *you*. My readers exhorted me not to become you because, just like yours, they like me the way I am.

    Of course, you don’t have to approve this comment. But considering the venom that’s erupted here, I thought I’d at least try to clear things up for you and your readers.

  92. Yoda Says:

    Haterz are ugly people in real life.

  93. erin Says:

    Oh dear, I can see there was quite the controversy over here (and I missed it - damn!)

    Blog what you wanna blog and screw anyone who says what you should and shouldn’t post (or which blogger you should and shouldn’t be like). Like I said recently, I kinda miss the engagement posts and would be happy to see them. So there.

    p.s. if you need any muscle in the midwest, you know who to call.

    p.p.s. Props to Peter for the title.

  94. Chelsea Talks Smack Says:

    Wow. I have no idea who that person is thats writing about you like that- but you know what, I don’t want to know them

    I think you’re fantastic, and F her. And you’re right there’s only room for one you, and you’re filling the position perfectly.

  95. Clink Says:

    No more comments on this post guys.

    The aforementioned blogger (I took off her name mainly so that people can’t google, find the post and possibly write nasty comments) said her piece and I accept it.

    I’m going to leave the post up because I believe in what I wrote. My feelings were hurt and I expressed them to a group of people who would understand and support me (while M is great, he is still…not part of the blog world and thus shit like this totally confuses him, because why would anyone write nasty things about me? What the? Do you know this girl? Etc.).

    Anyway. That’s that.

    I’m going to move on. To, you know, things like the gorgeous and affordable bridesmaids dresses we picked out this weekend. ;)

  96. searchinginsights Says:

    Though I am unsure of the drama, I can say for certain I love your honesty. There is something beautiful with the brutal, raw, honesty you publish on your blogs!! It definitely takes guts.

    I can’t tell you the number of times I came to your site for some solace or comfort…generally if I am going through a hard time in my relationship you have or are going through it…and it makes me feel better, knowing there is at least one person in this vast universe who can understand me.

    Please keep up the hard work and don’t stop!

  97. liv Says:

    hey, girl. i just made the bounce from somewhere or other and one thing really comes to mind: don’t feed the beast. these yahoos don’t even deserve your energy. you’re better than that, and you’re Greek. you rock.

  98. Judy Says:

    This title is priceless.

  99. daily editor Says:

    Hooray for a happy ending. :-) Who doesn’t like an affordable (and gorgeous!) bridesmaid dress? Hope you had a good weekend.

  100. Froggy Says:

    I know you’re demonstrating class by not telling us who this other blogger is… but damnit I’m curious!

    Also, I think that proper urban-grammar would be “bitches be running *they* mouths,” but that could just be the Brooklyn dialect :)

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