Realizations. January 30, 2008
-Not everyone likes pink and brown for a wedding (see: my mother, my sister, my aunts, my mom’s best friend).
-It feels good to stand by a decision you believe in.
-Sometimes what you need is a good freaking cry on your boy’s shoulder, right after Biggest Loser and right before some kick ass sex.
-In Defense of Food is an awesome book. You all should pick it up and then we can all be plant-eating healthy people together.
-I thought about giving up the blog but realized that my father has never backed down in the face of negativity, and neither should I. And he has gone through a lot worse.
-I do not like the sound of President McCain. Sorry, M.
-You can love someone in spite of their political views.
-If you don’t like a blog, don’t read it. Simple concept, actually. I do it all the time.
-Nasty emails from strangers WILL eventually make you laugh, instead of making you shake with anger. Really. Even the “I hope your family dies, you narcissistic bitch” ones.
-My friends would totally help me hide the body.
-The Greeks live longer because they eat greens, fish and olive oil. Thanks, Anthony Bourdain.
-Tea really isn’t that bad. I think I was just scarred from working in London and having approximately 3,567 tea breaks a day.
-Posting some fiction, anonymously, on a site created by some brilliant minds is so fucking refreshing. I plan to do it often.
-Live and let live is a brilliant phrase. Try applying it today! You’ll feel so much better without all the negativity. I promise.
Come to any realizations lately?
yes. that life is too short to spend worrying. follow your heart, because it just might lead to happiness.
and i would totally help you hide the body
lol
Life is full of stress. You either learn to deal, or get sucked under. I choose to deal.
Yes, only that chocolate is really fucking good, and I’m going to eat it if I want to. Whenever I want to.
Also, I said the exact same thing to Molly yesterday - why even read a blog if you don’t like it? It’s not rocket science. People really need to make more constructive use of their time.
Seriously, In Defense of Food is a dumbed down version of Michael Pollan’s previous book, The Omnivore’s Dilemma. Don’t know if you’d read that as well, but if you haven’t, do it! You don’t seem like you need dumbed down versions of things.
Also, sorry to be all tough with the tough love, but you need to Get Over It. Who knows why people say nasty things? They do. And you can’t make a little filter so that only sweet people who love you read your blog (though wouldn’t that be nice.) Some people won’t like you. It happens to everyone. Again with the not trying to bitchy, but probably am going to be…everyone with a few thousand hits a day will get nasty e-mails/comments. Not a big deal. Do you really want everyone to love you? Do you know who these people are?! Not people you want to love you. Seriously, take it as a compliment and move on.
Mepo: I am over it, finally. Hence why I can laugh at those emails now, instead of getting upset about them.
Wow, lots of turmoil in blogland over the last few days. My goodness. Anyway, pink and brown is one of my favorite color combinations. I hope to see some photos from the wedding (faceless, of course).
Also, President McCain? Urgh.
i actually have a post in my drafts right now based on this, it’s the best thing i’ve ever heard and i try to live by it….
not everyone is going to love you; concentrate on those who do.
Yay! Good.
My realizations: That my wedding is coming, I need to do some shit. That I will not sacrifice being unhappy for 7 months just to be a stick on that day. That I dont really have an idea about the presidential race as of yet, everything I think is based on my opinion of them (i.e. do they annoy me when they talk). That sushi is one of the best things I have recently come to love. That in the end its all about the marriage, anyway.
My realizations: Some people just aren’t worth the time or effort, and that’s okay.
Some people are overly dramatic for attention - ignore them or get a headache (I choose ignore).
Jealousy doesn’t look pretty on anyone.
No matter how hard things I’ve gone through are, people have faced worse. Mike made me appreciate this this morning.
In high school and in college girls and boys used to try to bring the negativity into my life. Talking trash left and right. I used to think to myself, don’t you seriously have anything better to do with your life then worry about mine? The answer is no.
But now that we are older? Its even more immature to talk shit on a blog. If you don’t like someone, don’t pay attention to them and move along. Focus on your life instead of someones you don’t like. Maybe then you will learn to like yourself.
I think you are awesome, Clink. And also, I agree with La about the chocolate.
I think pink and brown sound great together! Wait to go for picking the colours and sticking with them. I can’t make a decision on colours because every time someone tells me they don’t like the colour combo I feel like I need to change them. It is driving me crazy now. So good job standing by your choice!
When I saw that McCain had won the Florida Primary, I actually groaned.
Instead of bitching about things, actually do something about it. GOD I’m so tired of hearing my employees bitch about my management team. I can’t do anything even though I’m a manager, but if you talk to my supervisor- he could. I wish they’d understand that. But it applies to anything in life. …
You can talk about stuff- or do something about it.
You will never have enough time or money, but somehow you will always make do with what you can scrounge.
We teach people how to treat us, like, everyday. I knew that in a big picture kind of way but not in a every.waking.moment. kind of way.
Um, it might, just might be possible that people think I’m wonderful because I am, maybe just a little, and perhaps all this worrying that everyone will find out that I am a stupid, irresponsible catty useless bitch is a little unproductive. I’m not super sure on that one yet, though.
I haven’t much a clue about the whole blogwar thing, but I do hope that you realize how many people love reading your writing, no matter what (and BECAUSE of what) you are writing about. Don’t let one rotten piece of shit berry ruin the whole bunch. Which, clearly you’re not. Basically this was a long, drawn out way of saying you’re the coolest. (Sorry, that is just my favorite saying as of late…and it’s true.)
I think I’m just going to second Molly’s realization. Also, I went to a wedding this past summer that had a pink and brown theme and it was beautiful. It looked so feminine and fresh, while being completely sophisticated. I love me some pink and brown.
i realize that you’re awesome - i love your blog and i want to comment much more often.
and i echo mepo re: micheal pollan’s “omnivore’s dilemma” - great read!!!
don’t let others negativity bring you down. this world is made up of so many different kinds of people - and we all should just learn to accept others and move along. you don’t force anyone to read your blog and if they don’t like you - they should move on!
these people just have to grow up - they are hateful - and you deserve better.
hang in there - and keep blogging!
I am reading Michael Pollan’s book and am enjoying every page. The whole time I am reading it, I just keep telling myself, “DUH! YOU KNOW THIS STUFF TOO!”. But for some reason, re-reading it in paper emphasizes the importance. But “Omnivore’s Dilemma” was really good too. Although, it will make you never want to eat beef again.
Regarding the bad blogging, I’m going to be a complete cornball, and just say it. In the words of the great Jay-z, “Go on, brush yo’ shoulders off”. Sorry, had to do it
Pink and brown is one of my favorite color compositions.
I’ve come to the realization that I have a very short fuse when I am stressed.
Recent Realizations (not for the first time): life is too fucking short to deal with silly women-drama crap
and
How spoiled we’ve become as a society with so much leisure time, possessions, technology, etc., in the last 100 years
Our power was out for a few days a couple of weeks ago and it was quite an eye-opener to realize how dependent we are upon power for the basics; heat, food, communication. Scary.
I’ve come to so many realizations now that I’m out on my own without the safety net of family and lifelong friends. Too many and too wordy to throw into a comment box but I empathize with the confidence you’re feeling.
Good to see you’re on the up.
P.S. President McCain sounds bad.
In Defense of Food ROCKS.
And so do you.
Realization this morning while “zipping” pants: need to live by your mantra of “eat food. not too much.” writing this as i eat can of yogurt. look at yogurt, feel disgusted. realize that this happens every day.
realization: i like reading your blog. please don’t stop.
I (heart) pink and brown, too! It’ll be lovely.
I realize (constantly) that you can’t change people; you can only control yourself and the way you react to them.
In Defense of Food was an awesome book. I thought it had some different, and very good, information from The Omnivore’s Dilemma. I still need to eat more plants. And some other “food” he talked about freaks me out now.
Tea is good. If you have a Trader Joe’s near you, their Jasmine Green Tea is MMmm mmm good! =)
And I re-cemented my realization of just how awesome you are, little lady!
Thanks for doing what you do!
I’m impressed you can have sex with a repulbican, now THAT’s love!
Oh and you MUST read “I know this much is true” good god, it was awesome, and really tough at times, being a fellow member of the may/december relationships it was really interesting to read a book from the point of veiw of a mid 30’s guy.
“If you don’t like a blog, don’t read it. Simple concept, actually. I do it all the time.”
Yup, simple concept. Just seems to slip by some people… Or? If you do want to read? I like “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all” Unless, of course, opinions are specifically asked for…
BTW? Pink and brown for a wedding? Will look awesome. Certainly not my choices for my own wedding (I’m not a pink girl) but the combination is smashing!
My realization? My mood will totally determine if I find something funny or annoying. If I’m in a bad mood and get annoyed, I need to walk away, be by myself, take a deep breath, and then just let it go. It’ll be funny later on, really. Or at least a good story to blog about.
What I said was, “I hope your family diVes, you narcissistic bitch”
I’m a big fan of scuba.,
Learn to read, woman.
Realization? That I can do this 40 by 40 thing. And, well, that the Patriots are going to cruise on Sunday. Sorry!
Looking on the brighter side of life really does make me happier.
Mike: Last night I was talking to M about how everything has just been sucky and stressful lately.
And M, ever the supportive man in my life, responded with “just think of how much worse you’ll feel around 10:30pm on Sunday.”
To say what has been already said: love pink and brown together. Love!!!!
Realization? I had no idea how much free time and disposable income I had on my hands before children.
Realization? I don’t miss it a bit.
Realization? We’re closer to spring than yesterday.
“Pink and brown” (to an uneducated boy) sounds kind of bad, but when I saw the pictures the other day it looked really nice. Good job sticking to your guns.
A person who writes someone an email wishing someone in their family would die is not only mean, but also PSYCHOTIC. Seriously…people need to get a grip.
For the record, I think brown and pink are lovely colors for a wedding. And is there anything more time-consuming or annoying than trying to please everyone?
Please yourself, compromise when necessary, and take comfort in knowing that you might not be liked by everyone, but you’re liked by many. And really, its not quantity but quality that counts anyway.
Vegetables ARE delicious! I’ve just finished “The Omnivore’s Dilemma” and can’t wait to read “IDF” — he’s brilliant, really.
And I’ve realized that it’s OK to feel stressed out once in awhile, and that acknowledging it helps it go away more quickly.
Tea is WONDERFUL! I grew up on English style (South Asian background and all), but now I’m all about the brown rice green tea. So yummy.
I hear In Defense of Food is great. #1 just ordered it.
I will be voting for a Democrat in the fall, but President McCain sounds better than President Romney to me, so far, so good. And absolutely anything sounds better than President Bush!
Keep up the work, and please don’t quit!
I’m realizing that people all around me are growing up, getting married, making families, buying homes, etc. And while I may be a smidge envious (ok more than that), I’m happier than ever, and these things will happen for me one day as well.
My sister’s wedding was pink and brown and it was soooo beautiful.
You are a better woman than I. If someone were marching around our shared living space spouting off about President McCain I’d have to call in my friends to help me hide the body.
Hang in there. I think it is brave to be so honest.
I am ready to be married already. I am stronger than I thought and I wish I had more money, free time and shoes.
Blog wars are (as mentioned on mollys blog) lame and if I don’t like something I simply don’t read it anymore. It’s like food. Don’t like it—don’t eat it. Problem solved.
Bitchiness is easy (trust me, I know) but honesty takes strength.
Now for the pink and brown, I like. Will definitely be beautiful in your venue.
realization… I’m not going to be happy until I get out of this damn job, and I’m the only one who can do that.
I think pink and brown is cute for a wedding btw
Biggest Loser makes me cry every time, without fail. I love it.
i have realized that i need to get more sleep. it doesn’t make me go to bed any earlier, though.
and while president mccain sounds pretty bad, it’s less terrifying than president romney or president huckabee. yikes.
That even with a new refrigerator that consumes less energy, my power is still going to go out at 2 AM in the morning. Things to be thankful for? I didn’t have to be at my office at 8 because I had an eye doctor appointment at 9. Because I only woke up about 10 minutes before I would have had to be at work, due to missing alarm.
Ugh. Lots of drama in the bloggie world. I’m glad you can at least laugh at it.
Ok, could Peter be any funnier? I have come to many realizations too lately, some obviously echoing yours. Thank god for Anthony Bourdain and the fact that I love Mediterranean and eat like a Greek. Does that buy me a few more years? XOXO
My wedding was pink and brown (and champagne) and (although I’m quite biased) it was the best wedding ever. I’m still trying to learn the lesson that I can’t please everyone, but it’s true- so do what you like and they will all still love you and the wedding!
My realization today: My boss, who spends a great deal of company time in his office trying to raise money for McCain’s campaign, is a total asshole.
Too bad he’s the chairman.
- Nasty emails from strangers WILL eventually make you laugh, instead of making you shake with anger.
THANK YOU. I could’ve used this bit of advice yesterday when someone completely flamed one of my blog entries.
Whoa, is that for real? Someone wished death upon your family? That’s just plain mean. And I will never understand why people have to be that way.
Laughed out loud at Each’s comment: “I’m impressed you can have sex with a repulbican, now THAT’s love!”
Realizations today:
- Blogland dies every Wednesday.
- I’m so out of the loop.
- I’m more self-obsessed than I think I am.
- I should reconsider medication.
My realization lately: There’s a lot more to life than work. There’s a lot more to being happy than being successful at work. And when you think about all the wonderful successes in your life, does work even appear?
Can you tell I’ve been consumed with work lately?
And also, Weeds is a fucking good show.
Realization: Dating a 23 year old with committment issues really would have been a terrible idea, therefore it is for the best that he turned out to have a ne’er mentioned girlfriend, and I am offically over it.
Also realizing that lately I’ve been enjoying your blog much more than I used to. Not entirely sure why, but keep it up!
Where can you publish fiction anonymously?
I will make my dreams come true, by the skin of my teeth
I’m in need of more focus at work
P.S. I think brown and pink are great wedding colors.
I think Tina Fey is a comic genius.
hey there, I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now so i thought i should say ‘hello’ *waves*. I think your posts are absolutly awesome. Oh, and brown is very in right now, if i wasnt rediculusly single and having to choose brides maids dressed they would probably be a nice chocolate brown too.
cheers.
I realized how much I love your blog! XO
I love your blog, but I’ve never commented before. I work in a somewhat public arena and have gotten a lot of really ugly emails, had horrible threads started about me before on the Internet - many of the ” I hope your family (or, um, me) dies” variety. It has always struck me as super creepy/pathetic/whatever that people will get that involved in a stranger’s life and take the time to send those. I can’t fathom lashing out like that at anyone, let alone a stranger.
But, no matter how goofy it is that they are doing it, it can still get under you skin. Hope the madness stops for you soon.
Barak Obama is totally inspiring and WTF was I waiting for to actually decide to vote for him??
That there are certain people you cannot reason with or even come close to reasoning. They are so opinionated that you can’t break the cloud of crap that surrounds them because they think they know everything and you know nothing. They think it is their job to tell you everything they know and to tell you how they have it all “figured” out. My sister is one of those people. So is a parent at school that I would really like to punch in the face.
I think pink and brown sounds like a cool wedding dress and hell it’s your dress, you should be able to wear what you want.
And today I’ve realized that a three day work week feels just as long as a regular week, oy.
I’m absolutely addicted to your blog. With that said, I’m SO glad you’re taking this whole so-called “blog war” in stride. I know it’s heresy to say this, but I didn’t think the girl wrote anything so bad. I still don’t know why you were so upset.
Look, as a journalist, I once had the MAKERS OF SPLENDA all up in arms about something I wrote because — gasp — I called them a sugar substitute or something. It’s called noblesse oblige; influential people get torn down every once in awhile — think of your favorite bloggers (you mention Julia Allison … how about Dooce … or Stephanie Klein?) It IS funny — and the trick is not to let “them” know you’re sweatin’ it.
P.S. Remember that they’re not attacking YOU, A–, they’re attacking a persona, CLINK. P.P.S. Death threats are evil. I don’t mean those — I mean the critical posts that actually make sound arguments in albeit snarky ways.
I totally love pink and brown. And I like the sound of President Obama much better. I’ll still vote for Clinton if she makes it in the primary, though
Last night, after seeing a friend I hadn’t seen in months after we had a fallout, I realized that forgiveness and letting go are really much better than keeping grudges and holding onto hurt. I realized that sometimes, pride has no place in a friendship.
P.S I laughed out loud at Peter’s comment. I hope it made you smile too!
I’ve realized that no matter how drama-free and un-zilla the engaged couple are, someone (family, friends) will create drama. Nobody comes out of planning a wedding unscathed.
I’ve never even met you and I felt furious the other day. Ready-to-crack-skulls-furious. Maybe that’s the German in me.
And the Greek part of me? The part with my last name and nose? That makes me happy that I’ll be living longer too.
Have a little faith. Be happy. Make someone else happy. It really is so much easier than we are making it.
Definitely a great phrase. and I agree on the Prisdent Mccain ting- it doesnt have a nice ring. at all.
Realizations??? Caffeine is fucking up my nervous system i’ve had shakey pinkies all day long- I googled it, and apparently- caffeinie= damaged nervous system.
Pink and Brown?
I’m already dying to see pictures of your wedding!
I hope you post some
Have a great weekend
Just know that I would never wish death upon your family.
I think that pink and brown is a fantastic combination. Sadly, due to my hypothetical wedding, that probably won’t be possible. But if you like it, go for it.
Realizations, apart from I have really found a blog here that I could plod through, I suppose:
I got this soul, it’s all fired up…